Moving Too Fast in the relationship

This is one of the initial red flags…It has only been a very short period of time; we are talking about days, weeks, or maybe a month, and they are already crazy in love with you. Marriage may even be brought up as they state over and over again how you are the greatest thing to ever happen to them. They will want to become domicile with you as soon as possible.

Extreme Jealousy

Another one of the earliest signs to be seen… Is when you are blamed for having relationships or being improper by even flirting with another person.

Condemns Others

“My ex-girlfriend was a slut.”, “My ex always lied to me. Now I don’t trust anyone.”,

Monitors Everything and Everywhere You Go

Needs to know wherever you are all of the time and repeatedly calls and texts you.

Refuses Not to Honor Your Personal Boundaries

Refuse to consider your feelings about how fast they are moving this relationship or how quickly other things are also being pushed on you.

Criticizes You

Tells you that you are insane, incompetent, fat, worthless, tramp, and reminds you constantly that you will never have anyone else that will love you because you are not worth it.

Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde Disorder

Dual character- Could behave like Prince Charming at the beginning of the relationship and as soon as the abuse has happened. But abusers also have an outright mean and disgusting side. Ultimately, you will see more of the nasty side. You will feel as though you are walking on eggshells every single day.

Unable to Keep Their Word

Unpredictable/Threatening Behavior

May involve drug & alcohol misuse & unsafe driving.

Isolation

Prohibits you from spending any time away from them. Will not allow you to spend any time with family & friends.

Anger Problems

Throws things when angry infuriates quickly

Physical

Rough, shoving, hitting, hair pulling

Financial Control

No longer wants you working, due to the fact that you would then be able to support yourself without them.

State Coalitions List
Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1420 I-85 Parkway
P.O. Box 4762
Montgomery, AL 36101
(334) 832-4842 Fax: (334) 832-4803
(800) 650-6522 Hotline
Website: http://www.acadv.org
Email: info@acadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Alabama

Alaska Network on Domestic and Sexual Violence
130 Seward Street, Ste 214
Juneau, AK 99801
(907) 586-3650 Fax: (907) 463-4493
Website: http://www.andvsa.org
Email: andvsa@andvsa.org
Find Help & Statistics: Alaska

America Samoa Alliance Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 4459
Pago Pago, AS 96799
(684) 699-0272 Fax: (684) 699-0273
(684) 733-4334 Hotline
Website: http://www.asalliance.co
Email: asadsv@gmail.com

Arizona Coalition To End Sexual & Domestic Violence
2800 N. Central Ave., Ste. 1570
Phoenix, AZ 85004
(602) 279-2900 Fax: (602) 279-2980
(800) 782-6400 Toll Free
Website: http://www.acesdv.org
Email: info@acesdv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Arizona

Arkansas Coalition Against Domestic Violence
700 S. Rock St
Little Rock, AR 72202
(501) 907-5612 Fax: (501) 907-5618
(800) 269-4668 Nationwide
Website: http://www.domesticpeace.com
Email: info@domesticpeace.com
Find Help & Statistics: Arkansas

California Partnership to End Domestic Violence
1107 9th St., Ste 910
Sacramento, CA 95812
(916) 444-7163 Fax: (916) 444-7165
Website: http://www.cpedv.org
Email: info@cpedv.org
Find Help & Statistics: California

Violence Free Colorado
1330 Fox Street, Suite 3
P.O. Box 40328
Denver, CO 80204
(303) 831-9632 Fax: (303) 832-7067
(888) 778-7091
Website: http://www.violencefreecolorado.org/
Email: info@violencefreeco.org
Find Help & Statistics: Colorado

Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence
912 Silas Deane Highway, Lower Level
Wethersfield, CT 06109
(860) 282-7899 Fax: (860) 282-7892
(888) 774-2900 In State DV Hotline
(844) 831-9200 In State DV Hotline (Spanish)
Website: http://www.ctcadv.org
Email: contactus@ctcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Connecticut

Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
100 West 10th Street, #903
Wilmington, DE 19801
(302) 658-2958 Fax: (302) 658-5049
Website: http://www.dcadv.org
Email: dcadvadmin@dcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Delaware

DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence
5 Thomas Circle Northwest
Washington, DC 20005
(202) 299-1181 Fax: (202) 299-1193
Website: http://www.dccadv.org
Email: info@dccadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: District of Columbia

Florida Department of Children and Families
1317 Winewood Blvd.
Building 1, Room 202
Tallahassee, Florida 32399
(850) 487-1111 Fax: (850) 922-2993
Website: https://www.myflfamilies.com
Find Help & Statistics: Florida

Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
114 New Street, Suite B
Decatur, GA 30030
(404) 209-0280 Fax: (404) 766-3800
(800) 334-2836 Crisis Line
Website: http://www.gcadv.org
Email: info@gcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Georgia

Guam Coalition Against Sexual Assault and Family Violence
(671) 479-2277
Website: http://www.guamcoalition.org

Hawaii State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1164 Bishop St., Suite 1609
Honolulu, HI 96813
(808) 832-9316 Fax: (808) 841-6028
Website: http://www.hscadv.org
Email: admin@hscadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Hawaii

Idaho Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence
1402 W Grove St
Boise, Idaho 83702
(208) 384-0419 Fax: (208) 331-0687
(888) 293-6118 Nationwide
Website: http://www.idvsa.org
Email: info@engagingvoices.org
Find Help & Statistics: Idaho

Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence
806 South College Street
Springfield, IL 62704
(217) 789-2830 Fax: (217) 789-1939
Website: http://www.ilcadv.org
Email: ilcadv@ilcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Illinois

Indiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1915 West 18th Street, Ste. B
Indianapolis, IN 46202
(317) 917-3685 Fax: (317) 917-3695
(800) 538-3393 In State
Website: http://www.icadvinc.org
Email: icadv@icadvinc.org
Find Help & Statistics: Indiana

Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence
515 28th Street, Suite 104
Des Moines, IA 50312
(515) 244-8028 Fax: (515) 244-7417
(800) 942-0333 In State Hotline
Website: http://www.icadv.org
Email: admin@icadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Iowa

Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence
634 Southwest Harrison Street
Topeka, KS 66603
(785) 232-9784 Fax: (785) 266-1874
Website: http://www.kcsdv.org
Email: coalition@kcsdv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Kansas

Kentucky Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 356
Frankfort, KY 40602
111 Darby Shire Circle
Frankfort, Ky 40601
(502) 209-5382 Fax: 502-226-5382
Website: http://www.kcadv.org
Email: info@kcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Kentucky

Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 77308
Baton Rouge, LA 70879
(225) 752-1296 Fax: (225) 751-8927
Website: http://www.lcadv.org
Email: sheila@lcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Louisiana

Maine Coalition To End Domestic Violence
One Weston Court, Box#2
Augusta, ME 04330
(207) 430-8334 Fax: (207) 430-8348
Website: http://www.mcedv.org
Email: info@mcedv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Maine

Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence
4601 Presidents Dr. Suite 370
Lanham, MD 20706
(301) 429-3601 Fax: (301) 429-3605
Website: http://www.mnadv.org
Email: info@mnadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Maryland

Jane Doe, Inc./Massachusetts Coalition Against Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
14 Beacon Street, Suite 507
Boston, MA 02108
(617) 248-0922 Fax: (617) 248-0902
(617) 263-2200 TTY/TDD
Website: http://www.janedoe.org
Email: info@janedoe.org
Find Help & Statistics: Massachusetts

Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
3893 Okemos Road, Suite B-2
Okemos, MI 48864
(517) 347-7000 Fax: (517) 347-1377
TTY: (517) 381-8470
Website: http://www.mcadsv.org
Email: general@mcadsv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Michigan

Violence Free Minnesota
60 E. Plato Blvd., Suite 130
St. Paul, MN 55107
(651) 646-6177 Fax: (651) 646-1527
(651) 646-0994 Crisis Line
(800) 289-6177 Nationwide
Website: http://www.vfmn.org
Email: info@vfmn.org
Find Help & Statistics: Minnesota

Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 4703
Jackson, MS 39296
(601) 981-9196 Fax: (601) 981-2501
(800) 898-3234
Website: http://www.mcadv.org
Email: support@mcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Mississippi

Missouri Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
217 Oscar Dr., Suite A
Jefferson City, MO 65101
(573) 634-4161 Fax: (573) 636-3728
Website: http://www.mocadsv.org
Email: mocadsv@mocadsv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Missouri

Montana Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 818
Helena, MT 59624
(406) 443-7794 Fax: (406) 443-7818
(888) 404-7794 Nationwide
Website: http://www.mcadsv.com
Email: mtcoalition@mcadsv.com
Find Help & Statistics: Montana

Nebraska Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Coalition
245 S. 84th Street Suite 200
Lincoln, NE 68510
(402) 476-6256 Fax: (402) 476-6806
(800) 876-6238 In State Hotline
(877) 215-0167 Spanish Hotline
Website: http://www.nebraskacoalition.org
Email: help@ndvsac.org
Find Help & Statistics: Nebraska

Nevada Network Against Domestic Violence
250 South Rock Boulevard, Suite 116
Reno, NV 89502
(775) 828-1115 Fax: (775) 828-9911
Website: http://www.nnadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Nevada

New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 353
Concord, NH 03302
(603) 224-8893 Fax: (603) 228-6096
(866) 644-3574 In State
Website: http://www.nhcadsv.org
Email: info@nhcadsv.org
Find Help & Statistics: New Hampshire

New Jersey Coalition to End Domestic Violence
1670 Whitehorse Hamilton Square
Trenton, NJ 08690
(609) 584-8107 Fax: (609) 584-9750
(800) 572-7233 In State
Website: http://www.njcbw.org
Email: info@njcedv.org
Find Help & Statistics: New Jersey

New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1210 Luisa Street, Suite 7
Santa Fe, NM 87505
201 Coal Avenue Southwest
Albuquerque, NM 87102
(505) 246-9240 Fax: (505) 246-9434
(800) 773-3645 In State
Website: http://www.nmcadv.org
Email: info@nmcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: New Mexico

New York State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
119 Washington Ave.
Albany, NY 12210
Albany Office: (518) 482-5465 Rochester Office: (585) 413-0887
Fax: (518) 482-3807
(800) 942-6906 English-In State
(800) 942-6908 Spanish-In State
Website: http://www.nyscadv.org
Email: nyscadv@nyscadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: New York

North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence
3710 University Drive, Suite 140
Durham, NC 27707
(919) 956-9124 or (888) 997-9124
Fax: (919) 682-1449
Website: http://www.nccadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: North Carolina

North Dakota Council on Abused Women’s Services
418 East Rosser Avenue, Suite 320
Bismark, ND 58501
(701) 255-6240 Fax: (701) 255-1904
(888) 255-6240 Nationwide
Website: http://www.ndcaws.org
Email: ndcaws@ndcaws.org
Find Help & Statistics: North Dakota

Northern Marianas Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
P.O. Box 506689
Saipan, MP 96950
(670) 234-3878
Email: info@endviolencenmi.org

Ohio Domestic Violence Network
1855 E. Dublin-Granville
Columbus, OH 43229
(614) 781-9651
(800) 934-9840 Nationwide
Website: http://www.odvn.org
Email: info@odvn.org
Find Help & Statistics: Ohio

ACTION OHIO
P.O. Box 423
Worthington OH 43085
(614) 825-0551
(888) 622-9315 Nationwide
Website: http://www.actionohio.org
Email: actionohio@wowway.biz
Find Help & Statistics: Ohio

Oklahoma Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
8524 S. Western, Ste 111
Oklahoma City, OK 73139
(405) 524-0700 Fax: (405) 524-0711
Find Help & Statistics: Oklahoma

Oregon Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
9570 SW Barbur Blvd, Suite 214
Portland, Oregon 97219
(503) 230-1951 Fax: (503) 230-1973
(877) 230-1951
Website: http://www.ocadsv.org
Email: info@ocadsv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Oregon

Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence
3605 Vartan Way, Suite 101
Harrisburg PA 17110
(717) 545-6400 Fax: (717) 671-8149
(800) 932-4632 Nationwide
Website: http://www.pcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Pennsylvania

Puerto Rico Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: Coordinadora Paz para la Mujer
Section 193008
San Juan, Puerto Rico 00919-3008
(787) 281 – 7579 Fax: (787) 725-9248
Website: http://www.pazparalamujer.org/
Email: info@pazparalamujer.org
Find Help & Statistics: Puerto Rico

Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence
422 Post Road, Suite 202
Warwick, RI 02888
(401) 467-9940 Fax: (401) 467-9943
(800) 494-8100 In State
Website:http://www.ricadv.org
Email: ricadv@ricadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Rhode Island

South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 7776
Columbia, SC 29202
(803) 256-2900 Fax: (803) 256-1030
(800) 260-9293 Nationwide
Website: http://www.sccadvasa.org
Email: info@sccadvasa.org
Find Help & Statistics: South Carolina

South Dakota Network Against Family Violence & Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 90453
Sioux Falls, SD 57109
(605) 731-0041 Fax: (605) 977-4742
Website: https://sdnafvsa.com/home/
Email: krista@sdnafvsa.org
Find Help & Statistics: South Dakota

South Dakota Coalition Ending Domestic & Sexual Violence
122 E. Sioux Ave., Suite D
Pierre, SD 57501
(605) 945-0869 Fax: (605) 945-0870
(800) 572-9196 (referral hotline)
Website: https://www.sdcedsv.org/
Find Help & Statistics: South Dakota

Tennessee Coalition to End Domestic and Sexual Violence
2 International Plaza Drive, Suite 425
Nashville, TN 37217
(615) 386-9406 Fax: (615) 383-2967
(800) 289-9018 In State
Website: https://www.tncoalition.org/
Find Help & Statistics: Tennessee

Texas Council On Family Violence
PO Box 163865
Austin, TX 78716
(512) 794-1133 Fax: (512) 685-6397
Website: http://www.tcfv.org
Email: info@tcfv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Texas

Utah Domestic Violence Council
124 South 400 East Suite 300
Salt Lake City UT 84111
(801) 521-5544 Fax: (801) 521-5548
Email: admin@udvc.org
Website: http://www.udvac.org
Find Help & Statistics: Utah

Vermont Network Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 405
Montpelier, VT 05601
(802) 223-1302 Fax: (802) 223-6943
(802) 223-1115 TTY
Website: http://www.vtnetwork.org
Email: info@vtnetwork.org
Find Help & Statistics: Vermont

Women’s Coalition of St. Croix
P.O. Box 222734
Christiansted, VI 00822-2734
(340) 773-9272 Fax: (340) 773-9062
Website: http://www.wcstx.com
Email: wcsc@pennswoods.net
Find Help & Statistics: Virgin Islands

Virginia Sexual & Domestic Violence Action Alliance
1118 W. Main Street
Richmond, VA 23220
Office: 804.377.0335 Fax: 804.377.0339
Website: http://www.vsdvalliance.org
Email: info@vsdvalliance.org
Find Help & Statistics: Virginia

Virgin Islands Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Council
4100 Sion Farm Shopping Center
Christiansted, VI 00820
(340) 719-0144 Fax: 340.719.5521

9180 Estate Thomas – Unit K 2005
St. Thomas, VI 00802
(340) 774-0144
Website: http://www.facebook.com/vidvsac
Email: info@vidvsac.org
Find Help & Statistics: Virgin Islands

Women’s Coalition of St. Croix
P.O. Box 222734
Christiansted, VI 00822-2734
(340) 773-9272 Fax: (340) 773-9062
Website: http://www.wcstx.com
Email: wcsc@pennswoods.net
Find Help & Statistics: Virgin Islands

Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
711 Capitol Way, Suite Suite 702
Olympia, WA 98501
(360) 586-1022 Fax: (360) 586-1024
(360) 586-1029 TTY

1511 Third Avenue, Suite 433
Seattle, WA 98101
(206) 389-2515 Fax: (206) 389-2520
(800) 886-2880 In State
(206) 389-2900 TTY
Website: http://www.wscadv.org
Email: wscadv@wscadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Washington

Washington State Native American Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 3937
Sequim, WA 98382
(360) 683-2254 Fax: (360) 683-2200
Website: http://www.womenspirit.net

West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
5004 Elk River Road South
Elkview, WV 25071
(304) 965-3552 Fax: (877) 335-2306
Website: http://facebook.com/WVCADV
Find Help & Statistics: West Virginia

End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin: The Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence
1245 E. Washington Ave. Suite 150
Madison, WI 53703
(608) 255-0539 Fax: (608) 255-3560
Website: http://www.wcadv.org
Email: wcadv@wcadv.org
Find Help & Statistics: Wisconsin

Wyoming Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
P.O. Box 236
710 Garfield Street, Suite 218
Laramie, WY 82073
(307) 755-5481 Fax: (307) 755-5482
(844) 264-8080 Nationwide
Website: http://www.wyomingdvsa.org
Email: info@wyomingdvsa.org
Find Help & Statistics: Wyoming

The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers free, 24/7 assistance to survivors of domestic violence. Assistance in providing a shared safety plan, this organization also offers a directory of local resources — as well as shelters, support groups, legal advocacy, and daycare support. ‍

Love Is Respect: 866-331-9474‍

Love Is Respect provides support and advice to adolescents aged 13 to 26 who want to develop a better understanding of their intimate relationships. Along with its chat, phone, and text support, Love Is Respect has quizzes and articles that can help you determine whether your relationship is healthy. If someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, and you want to help, check out the organization’s page on supporting survivors. ‍

RAINN: 800-656-4673‍

RAINN, which operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline, is the largest organization dedicated to ending sexual violence in the United States. It offers detailed information related to sexual violence, including grooming warning signs, bystander intervention, survivor stories, and safety and prevention. You can use its chat or hotline services if you would like direct support.

WomensLaw.org ‍

WomensLaw.org offers legal information to anyone with questions about domestic violence, sexual violence, and other topics. On its website, you can find state-by-state legal information, online information clinics, a directory of local shelters, and detailed articles on abuse. You can contact the organization’s email hotline for personalized guidance if you have specific concerns or questions. It’s important to note that the organization is accessible and relevant to people of all gender identities. ‍

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence ‍

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) supports efforts that help survivors of domestic abuse. It offers monthly advocacy webinars, annual conferences, education and research on domestic violence, and programs that support survivors. NCADV also has safety plans, tips for accessing resources, articles on abuse, and information on how to take action.

The National Network to End Domestic Violence

The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) is an advocacy organization focused on helping domestic violence survivors and their supporters nationally. It brings local resources to communities, works on policy-driven initiatives, and provides state coalitions with information on domestic violence. On NNEDV’s resource page, you can find toolkits for transitional housing, tech safety, privacy, financial abuse, and many others.‍

Futures Without Violence‍

FUTURES works to end violence against women and children by providing programs and campaigns that empower survivors and their advocates. The organization is also dedicated to improving the healthcare response to domestic violence survivors. Its National Health Resource Center on Domestic Violence program offers an online toolkit for healthcare providers and advocates, educational videos, and news updates on domestic violence.

‍Shelters for those looking for a safe place to stay‍

Safe Horizon

Safe Horizon provides social services for victims of violence and abuse. It operates four multilingual hotlines and eight domestic violence shelters. Its shelters, located throughout New York City, are short-term emergency options for people under 21. The shelters provide case management, counseling, safety planning, employment and housing assistance, and a host of other resources. ‍

Domestic Shelters‍

DomesticShelters.org makes it easier for people experiencing domestic violence to find direct support and local services. It has a searchable directory of shelters and programs, online forums, events for survivors, a 24/7 hotline, and various risk assessments. You can find local shelters by entering your zip code and preferred language.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
http://www.ndvh.org

National Dating Abuse Helpline
1-866-331-9474
http://www.loveisrespect.org

National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
http://www.childhelp.org

National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673 (HOPE)
http://www.rainn.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-8255 (TALK)
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

National Center for Victims of Crime
1-202-467-8700
http://www.victimsofcrime.org

National Human Trafficking Resource Center/Polaris Project
Call: 1-888-373-7888 | Text: HELP to BeFree (233733)
http://www.polarisproject.org

National Network for Immigrant and Refugee Rights
1-510-465-1984
http://www.nnirr.org

National Coalition for the Homeless
1-202-737-6444
http://www.nationalhomeless.org

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-800-537-2238
http://www.nrcdv.org and www.vawnet.org

Futures Without Violence: The National Health Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-888-792-2873
http://www.futureswithoutviolence.org

National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health
1-312-726-7020 ext. 2011
http://www.nationalcenterdvtraumamh.org

National Runaway Safeline
1-800-RUNAWAY or 1-800-786-2929
http://www.1800runaway.org

CHILDREN

Childhelp USA/National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-422-4453
http://www.childhelpusa.org

Children’s Defense Fund
202-628-8787
http://www.childrensdefense.org

Child Welfare League of America
202-638-2952
http://www.cwla.org

National Council on Juvenile and Family Court Judges
Child Protection and Custody/Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-800-527-3233
http://www.ncjfcj.org

Center for Judicial Excellence
info@centerforjudicialexcellence.org
http://www.centerforjudicialexcellence.org

TEENS

Love is respect
Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
http://www.loveisrespect.org

Break the Cycle
202-824-0707
http://www.breakthecycle.org

DIFFERENTLY ABLED

Domestic Violence Initiative
(303) 839-5510/ (877) 839-5510
http://www.dviforwomen.org

Deaf Abused Women’s Network (DAWN)
Email: Hotline@deafdawn.org
VP: 202-559-5366
http://www.deafdawn.org

WOMEN OF COLOR

Women of Color Network
1-800-537-2238
http://www.wocninc.org

INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence
incite.natl@gmail.com
http://www.incite-national.org

LATINA/LATINO

Casa de Esperanza
Linea de crisis 24-horas/24-hour crisis line
1-651-772-1611
http://www.casadeesperanza.org

National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities
1-651-646-5553
http://www.nationallatinonetwork.org

IMMIGRANT

The National Immigrant Women’s Advocacy Project
(202) 274-4457
http://www.niwap.org

INDIGENOUS WOMEN

National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center
855-649-7299
http://www.niwrc.org

ASIAN/PACIFIC ISLANDER

Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence
1-415-954-9988
http://www.apiidv.org

Committee Against Anti-Asian Violence (CAAAV)
1-212- 473-6485
http://www.caaav.org

Manavi
1-732-435-1414
http://www.manavi.org

AFRICAN-AMERICAN

The Black Church and Domestic Violence Institute
1-770-909-0715
http://www.bcdvi.org

LESBIAN, BI-SEXUAL, GAY, TRANSGENDER, GENDER NON-CONFORMING

The Audre Lorde Project
1-178-596-0342
http://www.alp.org

LAMBDA GLBT Community Services
1-206-350-4283
http://www.qrd.org/qrd/www/orgs/avproject/main.htm

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force
1-202-393-5177
http://www.ngltf.org

Northwest Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian & Gay Survivors of Abuse
1-206-568-7777
http://www.nwnetwork.org

Trans Lifeline
877-565-8860
http://www.translifeline.org

ABUSE IN LATER LIFE

National Clearinghouse on Abuse in Later Life
1-608-255-0539
http://www.ncall.us

National Center for Elder Abuse
1-855-500-3537
http://www.aginginplace.org

MEN

National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS)
1-720-466-3882
http://www.nomas.org

A Call to Men
1-917-922-6738
http://www.acalltomen.org

Men Stopping Violence
1-866-717-9317
http://www.menstoppingviolence.org

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Battered Women’s Justice Project
1-800-903-0111
http://www.bwjp.org

Legal Momentum
1-212-925-6635
http://www.legalmomentum.org

Womenslaw.org
http://www.womenslaw.org

National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women
1-800-903-0111 x 3
http://www.ncdbw.org

Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project
http://www.dvleap.org

Elder abuse can happen in the home, nursing home, assisted living facility, or public. It can include any type of abuse, such as physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, and financial, against an older person. Elder abuse is more likely to happen when an older person depends on others for daily living activities, such as eating, bathing, using the toilet, dressing, or managing money.

Elder abuse also includes neglect and taking advantage of an older person.

DomesticShelters.org: A huge database that contains tons of 24/7 hotlines and info on emergency shelters across the country. Searching is available in a variety of languages, including Spanish and Chinese.

211: A helpful online database to find local domestic abuse shelters in your region. It also includes contact information for the shelter as well as more details on the types of housing available.

FVPSA: The Family Violence Prevention and Services Program aims to help victims of domestic abuse and their dependents access immediate shelter and other associated services.

Food assistance programs can assist a survivor and her children in meeting their nutritional needs. People in most communities have various programs and services available locally. Even if a federal program offers assistance, churches, charities, and nonprofits in the local community will provide these services.

WIC: The Special Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children is a federal program that assists women in getting food. WIC provides food, health care referrals, and nutrition counseling through state programs to low-income pregnant, breastfeeding, and postpartum women and infants and children up to the age of five. Most states also operate their food stamp and food voucher programs.

SNAP: Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program is a government program that offers women and low-income families a supplemental budget to purchase food. Women in emergency or domestic violence shelters are eligible for the support.

Often, leaving a violent relationship requires unraveling years or even decades of lawful entanglements, as well as setting official barriers between the survivor and the survivor’s children and the offender. Escapees should and must do whatever they can to protect their rights.
Lawyers, legal aid services, local bar associations, and, usually, local government agencies such as law enforcement and the county clerk’s office, can start the process of getting the legal wheels IN MOTION IN REGARD TO child custody, no-contact orders, family court, divorce law, and other topics.

While no one should mistake a judge’s restraining or protective order issued for a Kevlar vest, it’s a good plan to put together the maximum amount of legal shielding offered. Survivors cope with a variety of legal challenges as well as opportunities to begin laying the foundation for a better life.

These include:
• Guaranteeing safety in the courthouse. Most states recognize the right of the abused to privacy and safety while in court; you may ask for separate waiting rooms and individual court times.

• Obtaining orders of protection, often called “restraining orders.” You won’t need a lawyer to file for a protection order; you might not even have to go to the courthouse. Many court clerks have deputies who meet survivors in their places of refuge, including shelters, to provide paperwork, answer questions, then take the filing to court.

• Custody battles are rarely won in a day, but survivors can begin the process by taking their child(ren) when they leave. Make certain you have documented incidents of abuse as they happen; contemporaneous notes are compelling legal evidence.

• Filing for divorce in a no-fault state may not be particularly complicated. Review your local clerk of court’s website for information about filing for divorce. The local domestic abuse shelter should have a list of reliable divorce and family law attorneys.